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    Default Think it's time to be honest...

    I'm struggling.

    A year ago I lived for my training, I was more than happy with my physique and I felt stronger and fitter than I ever have. I even got myself fit enough to join the marines, something that I now can't do.

    About 7 months ago I decided to pack up everything and move in with my partner. It's not a million miles away but it's far enough away that I've had to change my job, don't see my friends, and more importantly change my gym.

    Since then a lot has happened, my partner is suffering from depression, I pretty much hate my new job, can only just afford the mortgage and training just went out the window.

    I joined the local gym (well, the closest one I could afford) and it's a pure gym. It's rubbish. It's ridiculously busy, full of people who do not care about the place and chuck weights around etc etc. I also work nearby in private security and a lot of the members are known to me for various reasons meaning I can't focus on my workout when having to focus on watching my back.

    I've never had motivation issues, not ever. But these last few months I have lost everything I had worked so hard to get. I've lost around 10Kg, and although I haven't gone for a test id estimate going up to around 10% more body fat (at minimum). My lifts have taken a beating, and I'm out of breath running a mile compared to banging out a fast 10k's a best effort 5k (sub 20's at one point) and a sprint session a week.

    My diet is also rubbish, which is something I have tried to address but to do that I'd have to force my partner into it with me, and with the depression I don't feel I can do that.

    Before I religiously followed IIFYM, and it worked wonders but I'm struggling to even get the motivation to do that.






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    I pressed enter by accident but..

    What I'm trying to say is has anyone else been where I am? What did you do to kick yourself back up the arse and push through the depression of all your hard work going to waste?

    I've never felt like this before, never needed to have to push myself to train, so this is all new to me.


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    Look in the mirror and realize only YOU can make the change.
    Your diet sucks, so that is where you need to start first
    If you dont have a passion for training or dieting or counting calories don't do it. Why force yourself into something you dont like doing?


    i would personally read these over first and foremost:


    If Cutting Read the following:

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    http://www.bodyrecomposition.com/fat...ss-part-2.html

    I highly suggest you read here regarding your diet:

    http://www.bodyrecomposition.com/fat...s-part-1.html/
    http://www.bodyrecomposition.com/fat...ts-part-2.html

    And also my article regarding fatloss on the site:

    http://www.muscleandstrength.com/for...Look-Your-Best


    If Trying to add some size:


    Eat in a caloric surplus, meaning eating more kcals than you need to maintain in order to gain muscle, size, and strength.

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    One thing at a time, and right now the only thing that matters is your partners depression. Ensure they're getting the right treatment, counselling and meds work very well. Be there for them, you don't need to cheer them up, it probably won't work, but be there for them always.

    Training is irrelevant to real life, it's a luxury you can get back to when you have the space to. I've found the gym is a nice distraction when times are hard, and keep it in my routine regardless, but that may not be the best thing for you.

    Just be strong for your partner, they'll come through the depression and you can look after the other aspects of your life.
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    Your probably right, although it's funny when I get in through those doors, despite all the idiots in there and the fact I hate my particular gym, turning the music up loud and training makes me forget about a lot of it for that 90 mins

    Think I'm putting too much pressure on myself, I'm trying to fit in a 6 day training schedule like I used to do with a lot of cardio in amongst it all, maybe if I just go back to a three day week with a cardio day thrown in I'll have a better chance.

    Nice to know I'm not alone with this though.


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    Hi, sorry for the life you are going through at the moment, but be strong, get your partner to see a counselor, and weight training is a great sport to alleviate pressures of life
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